We all have ‘core qualities’. Qualities that are so ingrained in our being, that we hardly notice them ourselves. They come so natural to us that we really don’t register them as anything special. However, these core qualities offer us great and very authentic tool into more effective leadership and interpersonal connection.
In fact, knowing and understanding your core qualities turns them into leadership qualities to add to your tool box of authentic leadership. It offers great insight into what triggers you in others, and in your own pitfalls and challenges. It actually is a great tool for improving your leadership, and becoming a more effective leader.
Daniel Ofman developed a model that helps explore your own core qualities, which also illuminates these other elements. His work creates understanding around ourselves and our relations with other people. When you understand the core quadrant of your quality, it is much clearer why you respond to others the way you do, and it is possible to leverage the power of your core qualities into leadership qualities.
Each Core Quadrant is comprised of 4 aspects:
the Core Quality
A core quality is a special strength, something you are really good at, or for which you are often praised by others. To you, it may be nothing special though: you believe anyone can do it. It is an inherent quality that can either be suppressed or developed.
For example: decisiveness, considerateness, carefulness, courage, orderliness and flexibility.
A pitfall is ‘too much of a good thing’. The positive aspect of a core quality is over the top, turning your strength into a weakness.
For example: helpful becomes meddling; careful becomes fussy; flexible becomes capricious.
On the other hand, if the pitfall is clearly visible, you can often recognize someone’s underlying core quality because of that specific pitfall.
For example: someone who acts inflexible may have decisiveness as a core quality. Someone with an unyielding attitude may be a go-getter at the core.
A challenge is the positive opposite of a pitfall. Having identified the negative, transformed behaviour (the pitfall), you can start looking for the challenge.
For example: in a nagging person, the positive opposite (the challenge) is patience (the core quality is decisiveness).
And: in a capricious person, the challenge is orderly behaviour (the core quality is flexibility).
The core quality and the challenge are complementary qualities. The objective is to strike a balance between the two. If the challenge is underdeveloped, the core quality must be improved to find the balance.
For example: It is not necessary to become less decisive, but to develop more patience, resulting in a patient decisiveness without nagging.
Or: find a balance between flexibility and orderliness.
The core qualities can also be used to identify potential conflicts with the people around you. People tend to be ‘allergic’ to too much of their own challenge in other people. The allergy is ‘too much of a good thing’ of the challenge, as well as the negative opposite of the core quality.
For example: the negative opposite of the core quality decisiveness is passiveness. Too much patience may also degenerate into passiveness. The more people are confronted with their own allergy, the greater the risk that they resolve to their own pitfall.
For example: the decisive individual starts nagging in response to too much passiveness in another person.
Leadership Qualities in relation to the core quadrant
- When you meet someone who shares your core quality
Most often, you’ll respect each other, but in certain circumstances, especially when under stress, both of you will turn to nagging. You can probably easily identify each other’s pitfalls.
- When you meet your opposite
Meeting your opposite often his results in feelings of contempt, characteristic of a situation in which you are confronted with your allergy. This type of confrontation makes you vulnerable to your pitfall.
Awareness of this may help you to identify your pitfall and thus prevent this from happening.
- People are usually allergic to the exaggerated version of what they themselves need most (their challenge). In other words, you can learn a lot from people you have a hard time dealing with.
- When you encounter someone whose behaviour is your allergy, you might be able to recognize this behaviour as the overstated version of the other person’s core quality. If you look at it from this perspective, you may be able to help the other person find the core quality behind that pitfall. If this succeeds, the core quality creates a perfect basis of cooperation with your own core quality.
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Rosalie Puiman is the founder of The Sovereign Leader and the author of The Mindful Guide to Conflict Resolution. She works with executives and founding teams to bring forth effective, impactful and purpose-driven success.Related Posts: